WELCOME TO TALES FROM THE CUSP, I’m Ina Amor Mejia. I’m a writer, photographer and aspiring filmmaker, and I live in Manila with my husband, daughter and son. I used to think life was a series of turning points and little else. A huge checklist of To Do Dreams. Fixated on making them real, I felt dronelike and overwhelmed, both exhausted and numb, always on the verge of something, unmindful of the time in between. I have an ineffable grief for all the years I spent just holding my breath and waiting. I think you know the feeling.
Tales from the Cusp is about the end of waiting.
IT IS MY PERSONAL MISSION, AND THE BLOG’S, TO BE FULLY-PRESENT EACH DAY, IN THIS IMPERFECT but GIFT OF A LIFE. TO FIND THE BEAUTY, AND HUMOR, IN THIS FLAWED BUT FASCINATING WORLD. it is about celebrating that expanse of time between where you are and where you hope to be. I SHARE THIS MANTRA WITH A GROWING COMMUNITY OF WOMEN FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD, FOR WHOM TALES FROM THE CUSP IS NOW A FAVORITE SOURCE OF INSPIRATION, IDEAS, AND TALES.
|Above: Photo from Paris in the Fall, Part Three, wearing my daughter’s flower crown, and photo from Saga of a Chocolate Cake.|
My blogging rule, those helpful paranoias, and why simple crafts are the best.
Life first, blog later
It was very tempting to write about what was trending and what might bring my blog traffic. I found out very quickly that this was the quickest way to get burned out as a blogger. My rule is to write honestly from personal experience, so I always have something of value to bring to the table. At the same time, writing about them gives me deeper insight. It’s win-win.
I wake around 6 am, have a glass of water, my first of two coffees, and a tablespoon of coconut oil if I don’t forget. Then some quiet time before everyone wakes up.
The Roast Chicken Test
I think every serious home cook in the making should dive right into roast chicken. It demystifies cooking, and makes everything less daunting. The chicken can be homey or grand. And once you perfect it it’s a great thing to have in your repertoire. Suddenly there’s this glistening bird on your table and you’re like, “What that? Oh that’s nothing.”
I’ve had this lifelong fear of tight spaces and being trapped. Planes, trains, and elevators are not my favorite things but it is what it is. I was once in this train tunneling 200 km into the Swiss Alps and of course I’m exaggerating but it felt like being sucked into a worm hole. So I told myself, “Breath. You’re slaying some major demons.”
The perfect DIY
There is something very special about crafts that take talent and time. But I mostly appreciate crafts that are easy and nearly fool proof. Because you know there’s this genius idea behind their design, and a lot of effort went into making them effortless.
There’s a lot of suffering. There’s always something not right somewhere in the world. And if it doesn’t compel you to action, it should at least turn you into someone kinder and more grateful.
Evolving as a creative
No matter the medium, I think creatives should continue to reinvent themselves. It’s less about changing and more about growing. An openness brings you closer to your true artistic self, not farther from it.
Burn the Planners
Time management meant being able to separate your personal and professional lives. They were distinct areas that rarely merged. An article posted on facebook by a former boss led me to the idea that perhaps we shouldn’t draw the line, because there isn’t any. It sounds crazy, but liberating, and it makes sense. Of course I still plan my day but I don’t agonize over it like I used to.